If only they had listened to me, my son would still be here today

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Kristy Watson is a 20 year old, young single Mum. She works at her families business and spends her free time surrounded by her friends, spending quality time with her family and takes her fitness very seriously. Kristy has experienced a parents worst nightmare and she took to Facebook to help spread awareness in hopes that her story might reach the right person and could potentially save a life.

Bent But Not Breaking are beyond inspired by this strong woman’s motivation to use such a traumatic experience and turn it into a form of encouragement and awareness for others.

Below is what Kristy posted to her Facebook and we hope that you share this too.

Kristy’s post

please feel free to share, I don’t want this post to be looked at as a blame on anyone. I want people to know what I went through and in any way help prevent such a thing happening to someone else !!!!!

It wasn’t an easy task accepting my pregnancy as a single mum, but it was definitely the most beautiful experience I have ever had. Not only achieving everything I did but proving to myself how strong I really was, being able to carry after thinking I couldn’t. My body did amazing things and grew such a beautiful angel baby that didn’t deserve to have his life taken so soon. He was my miracle baby after having 3 previous miscarriages.

BUT

My pregnancy almost killed me. A week later and my body’s was still fighting for my life because when it was too late, I was told I had severe pre eclampsia. My kidneys were failing, my blood pressure was so high it nearly caused me to have a stroke or sesuize, my body was fighting so hard for to long to keep my boy alive that it took his life in order to keep mine.

I didn’t know every detail about pre eclampsia, I knew about it I knew my bestfriend had experienced it with her little girl but I didn’t know how sick my body actually got. The worst thing about it that I didn’t get told I had it until I had the nurse sit on the end of my bed at 32weeks and 5 days in front of my ulstrasound to tell me my precious little Kaycen no longer had a heart beat. No words you ever want to hear, no words you ever imagine hearing so far into your pregnancy.

I knew from 26 weeks something wasn’t right, from the horrible swelling in my feet hands and face, the headaches that lasted weeks on end, the blurry vision, my blood pressure going up and down I knew that this weren’t just normal ‘pregnancy symptoms’ but after numerous amounts of doctors visits, in and out of hospital, even trying to contact another hospital for a second opinion I was told it was just normal or I’d get ‘I’m actually not to sure’ and sent home or got told I couldn’t be looked at unless it was by my hospital I planned to have my baby at. For 6 weeks I was sent home after going in every time with the same thing an having every symptom of pre eclampsia. For though who don’t know what Pre-eclampsia is, it’s a disorder of pregnancy characterized by the onset of high blood pressure and protein in the urine. In severe disease there may be red blood cell breakdown, a low blood platelet count, impaired liver function, kidney dysfunction, swelling, shortness of breath due to fluid in the lungs, or visual disturbances. Pre-eclampsia increases the risk of poor outcomes for both the mother and the baby. If left untreated, it may result in seizures at which point it is known as eclampsia.

Mine, mine was left to late I had already lost my son before he got the chance to see the light of day.

The Tuesday before I was in again, for the exact same things as every other time, I felt stupid I felt like they were just thinking I was complaining about my pregnancy but in reality I knew something was just not right. They told me they were going to give me an ultrasound but the doctor was in a meeting and I had to wait, wait 2 hours to be sent home once again with no bloods or ultrasound done, just to take panadol for my headaches. That was 3 days before I felt my son never move again. 3 days before I got told that I had serve pre eclampsia and that my baby had no heartbeat. 3 days before I had to be induced and be in labour for 12 hours before I finally hold my breathless and lifeless son.

IF ONLY

If only they had done a ultrasound that day to see that my placenta was failing, if only they had done my bloods to see how toxic my bloods really were at that stage. It may not, it may not had changed the outcome of what happen but the thing is I will never ever know. I don’t want to play the blame game but to be so neglected and feel like I wasn’t listened to by people who I put in the hands of the life I was creating and to be let down as much as I was is not something I would wish on my worst enemy. I want to raise awareness so no mother, no family ever has to go through the pain, heartbreak and loss I’ve had to go through.

I felt my sons last movements on the 26th of July around 8.30 to then not be able to find a heart beat the next morning at 6am. I had to go from having my whole life line, my world move around and be healthy in my belly to then be induced to deliver my sleeping baby. I had loss my gorgeous little boy due to the system letting me down and not listening to me when I knew something was wrong. I had to watch my family be so heartbroken over the loss of there nephew, grandson and cousin and myself because no one cared enough to help when I needed it.

I want people to know my story so they know that when their gut is telling them that something is not right, fight for answers, to travel back and forth until they know what is going on, to make sure they are listened too because I now have to go home to a nursery full of everything I needed to raise my little boy now to a empty cot that my son never got to lay in, to books I never got to read him, to his favourite outfit I never got to dress him in all because I was not heard. I now go home empty handed with a heart so broken that it’s going to take a long time to heal.

please listen to your body, I know some people don’t have to go through the stress I had to go through weeks leading up to my sons death by the drama people were causing me or people even have to go through something worse but these little lives we create inside our wonderful bodies rely on us, we have to look after ourselves just as much and I couldn’t imagine any other mother having to feel like they failed there child like I’ve had too.

I know my little Kaycen will live on through me and everyone’s hearts he touched.

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In loving memory of Kaycen Watson


We would like to send our deepest condolences and love to Kristy as she begins her journey in moving forward and spreading awareness.

You can follow Kristy at : https://m.facebook.com/kristywatson27/

Or

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002577583893

If you would like more information on pre-eclampsia you can head on over to :https://www.preeclampsia.org


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